Have you heard the saying, “The grass always looks greener on the other side”?
I have added a new twist to that: “The grass always looks greener on the other side, but you still have to cut it.”
Galatians 6:7 says, “Do not be deceived; God is not mocked, for you reap whatever you sow.”
We live in a society with a “victim” mentality. If someone gets caught engaging in inappropriate and/or immoral behavior, they deny it or begin to blame someone else. The deranged shooter in Tucson, Ariz., was apprehended and jailed for shooting 18 people, killing six; yet, when he stood before the judge, he pleaded “not guilty.”
King David committed adultery with Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11.4). He knew exactly what he had done. The prophet Nathan confronted him with his sin. “Nathan said to David, 'You are the man!'” (2 Samuel 12.7). King David did not pass the buck by blaming a family member. He took responsibility for his sin, and Psalm 51 is a Psalm of repentance written after his affair with Bathsheba and confrontation with the prophet Nathan.
I have been a local church pastor for 25 years now. During that time, I’ve seen countless situations where someone left their spouse and family because “the grass looked greener on the other side.”
The sad reality is that in every situation I have witnessed, there has always been a day of reckoning. The day of reckoning was often the children not wanting anything to do with their father or mother because of the injury to their family. Still other times, the day of reckoning was a lack of respect, declining health, and a sense of remorse and guilt that they lived with the rest of their life.
The Bible says that “the wages of sin is death” (Romans 6.23). Wages are what we work hard for and earn to make a living. The apostle Paul is saying that the pleasures of sin are like wages that ultimately earn us spiritual death when payday rolls around.
The good news is that Paul didn’t end the verse of scripture with the word "death." There is a conjunction – “The wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord” (Romans 6:23).
Upon being confronted by the prophet Nathan, King David repented of his sin and was restored into fellowship with God once again. Repentance doesn’t simply mean feeling sorry for having been caught. It means “forsaking” or “turning away from” the behavior that caused your fall in the first place.
Jesus placed a responsibility with our repentance. He said to the woman caught in adultery, “Neither do I condemn you, go and sin no more” (John 8.11).
Refuse to be a victim. When you sin, humble yourself before almighty God and take responsibility for what you have done. People who take responsibility for their actions, ultimately become bigger people because of their humility.